A friend sent this poem to me when we lost my Mum. It gave me great comfort and I hope it will be the same for you and your family.

The poem is anonymous unlike your relative who I am sure was loved and respected. Just change the gender and it will I hope have meaning for you too.

We wish you happy memories and good thoughts.

You can shed tears that he is gone,
Or you can smile because he has lived

You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all he has left
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him
Or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and only that he has gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what he’d want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on